Volume #3 April 08

Love knows no time, people & place bounds – it lasts as long as the breath lasts. “Love is long suffering, kind, all bearing, enduring, and truth loving; without envy, self pride & evil;& love never fails...” (Bible) Hi Friends! Love and warm greetings in Jesus’ loving name! We praise God that March 26th we could complete 5 years of our blessed married life. We just want to sum up in few words: God has been good & faithful to us & has kept us together in this life’s journey and has used us for the extension of His kingdom. Many of you have been praying for us and we extend our heartfelt gratitude for the same & request your continued prayer support for our personal lives & our ministry too. In the last issue we discussed on love & we left you just with a small measuring device to know how real your “love/love relation” was. Love and Lust (untrue love) Test! This time we are trying to cover a related topic to love, which we promised to share in this volume. Again we must mention that the views might differ. We express & share what we are convinced of, and feel are logical, ethical, moral & BIBLICAL! We are always willing to help but arguments we avoid. Kindly feel free to pass the same to as many as you think might be blessed through the same (without editing please). If you are blessed please mention! Your testimonials & suggestions are valuable and inspiration to improve continuously. God bless you! Love, prayers and blessings, Charles and Salome Jacob Kingdom Extension Ministries (Promoting & Establishing Godly values and principles of God’s Kingdom) Jacob Lodge, A-339/3 Rajendra Nagar, Bareilly 243122, U.P. India. Ph# Residence: 91-581-3208854 & 2585406 Mobile: 91-94124-51573 Email: salomewedscharles@yahoo.co.in AND charlesdelhi@yahoo.co.in Youth Column: “Lover Of Our Soul” (Helping you find solutions & answers for your innermost queries) April 2008 A Frequently Asked Question Dear Charles & Salome, Can you please guide us about this- Is premarital1 sex acceptable? How about SEX before marriage? In our modern society & among our friends today, it’s common. Can we just go about it, to check our abilities, strength & weaknesses before we are actually wedded? Love needs proof and Sex proves the strength of our friendship, relationship & love; and reveals the seriousness of one’s commitment to another. It is easy to WALK OUT of “a living-in-relationship” THAN of “legal wedding bonds”. Answer: Hello dear friend! We would like to ask you something before answering you in detail. How would you feel if (supposedly), you were born before/outside the marriage of your parents; and you get to know this truth openly? Would you be proud of your “unmarried &/or illegitimate2 parents” & appreciate their 'that act of sex'? Would the same society, you speak of, accept you? Why do the unmarried couples throw away their virgin/illegitimate babies? Would you, in such a case, openly declare- “I’m a (so called illegitimate) child of my virgin parents? No, we are not talking of so called “safe or protected Sex”. We are speaking of the order God has created & set before us- as human beings. SEX3 is a divine gift, created & given by GOD Himself to us ward. God Himself said, “…It is not good that the man should be alone …” Genesis 2:18; and therefore, God created EVE (a woman) for ADAM (a man). And when GOD said that they two shall be one; HE did not speak of mere physical/ sexual relations alone RATHAR He spoke of emotional, spiritual, social & total bonding in love for which sex given as a gift to BOTH to keep them ONE in love bonding forever; and for procreation4 too. Their sexual union was given a name of an irreversible5 permanent relationship. Or else there would be no difference between humans & animals. Many argue, if one is not getting married till the age of 40 or so or even unmarried; shall the same remain virgin till then, forfeiting6 the enjoyment of “God given pleasure”? If this reasoning is appropriate, logical & acceptable- then just think & answer your own self- Are they really cheered up & remain happy of such relations? For how long? Do they still carry a relationship which can openly be talked of and could be given a healthy name of relationship? Does not premarital/ even extra marital sex cause hatred toward the same sexual partners, guilt within the self; resulting into fear, breakage of relations forever, even later impotency7, infertility8, sexually transmitted diseases, emotional disorders, tension, even give rise to murders/ & suicide? Our answer is: God created man & woman and appointed an appropriate time for their marriage and virginity9 he added to them both to exchange/present as wedding gifts with/to one another; and the act of SEX to enrich their intimacy10 (like to none other), strengthen their bonding (exclusively different). Sex is a gift from God, also to bless the married couple with kids/babies and thus continuing the maintenance of healthy society on this planet earth. We must mention, during the years of ministry, we have commonly observed that many couples involved in premarital sex have struggled for their baby/ first baby. Ask yourself- would you like/ have liked to marry a girl or a boy whom you know have been having sexual relations with other boys/ girls? We don’t know that in the above discussed issues, at what point of life you stand & in what situation your life fits in! Are your steps just making a move for pre marital & or extra marital sex/affair? Or you have already happened to be into it? Are you now suffering through guilt, depression, infertility, barrenness (no baby), feelings of death (murder/suicide)? It’s yet not too late for you. JESUS loves you anyway and HE is inviting you to Himself; He says, “If confess your sin, He is ready & willing to forgive you & restore you your life & joy”. Come to Him dear friend; repent & live a better, happier & stronger life – you have never ever even imagined of. Get your life rejuvenated11 & add new sparks to your life & family! Please meet your local pastor or any servant of God whom you think you can trust & ask him/her to pray for you and guide you furthermore. Lots of warm love & blessings, Yours loving, Charles & Salome Jacob WEIGH YOUR OWN THOUGHTS/VIEWS! 1. (Love needs proof and Sex proves the strength of our friendship, relationship & love; and reveals the seriousness of one’s commitment to another.) Then how about your relations & love bonds and commitment - To other friends - To family & relatives - To social circle - To colleagues, etc. How would you prove your seriousness to them? Do you still think “SEX” is the measure to help you prove yourself? 2. (In our modern society & among our friends today, it’s common. Can we just go about it, to check our abilities before we are actually wedded?) Can you share your premarital/ extra marital sexual experiences with your SPOUSE? Would that enrich your life or rob you of your joy of marriage? 3. (It is easy to WALK OUT of “a living-in-relationship” THAN of “legal wedding bonds”.) Living-in-Relation versus Marriage:- What’s more comfortable: to see them getting married who bore you? OR To know you were born to a loving couple who were wedded before you were born? Ask yourself, “how & what would you label these relationships/lives”- who lived with all their so called liberty? Late Nafisa Joseph (a well renowned model), who committed suicide at 28; who was about to marry an already married man! Late Kuldeep Randhawa (a model/actress), who too committed suicide at about 28; who was already into a Living-in-Relationship! Few difficult words simplified: 1. Premarital: existing or occurring before marriage. 2. Illegitimate: unlawful; improper; wrongly inferred. 3. Sex: sexual instincts, desires, etc., or their manifestation; sexual intercourse. 4. Procreation: produce (offspring/child) naturally; [Latin: related to *create]. 5. Irreversible: not reversible or alterable; that cannot be changed back. 6. Forfeiting: thing lost or surrendered as a penalty; lose the right to. 7. Impotency: powerlessness; ineffectiveness; inability to satisfy/get satisfied. 8. Infertility: not fertile; unable to have offspring; inability to reproduce. 9. Virginity: state of person who has never had sexual intercourse. 10. Intimacy: close acquaintance; familiar (close friend); private and personal; (usu. foll. by with) having sexual relations; having thorough knowledge of. 11. Rejuvenate: make young again. Rekindle. Label again or differently. 12. Versus: against (esp. in law and sport). Please feel free to reach us! E-mails, phone or even in person. Below is the link to us:- Jacob Lodge, A-339/3 Rajendra Nagar, Bareilly 243122, U.P. India Ph# Residence: 91-581-3208854 & 2585406 Mobile: 91-94124-51573 Email: loverofoursoul@yahoo.com AND http://in.f76.mail.yahoo.com/ym/Compose?To=salomewedscharles@yahoo.co.in If you have missed any issue & want it, just mail us the volume number & we will send a copy! Kingdom Extension Ministries (Promoting & Establishing Godly values and principles of God’s Kingdom)